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Disarming the Narcissist: Strategies for Protecting Yourself
Navigating a relationship with a narcissist can feel like walking a tightrope. Their manipulative tactics, gaslighting, and emotional volatility can leave you feeling drained, confused, and questioning your own sanity. This post offers practical strategies to "disarm" a narcissist, not in the sense of changing them, but in protecting yourself and setting healthy boundaries. We'll explore techniques to manage interactions, understand their behaviors, and ultimately, prioritize your own well-being. This isn't about winning a battle, but about securing your peace of mind.
Understanding the Narcissist's Arsenal: Recognizing Manipulation Tactics
Before you can disarm a narcissist, you need to understand their weaponry. Narcissists thrive on control and manipulation, employing various tactics to maintain their inflated sense of self and dominate interactions. Recognizing these tactics is the first step towards neutralizing their impact.
#### Common Manipulation Techniques:
Gaslighting: Making you question your reality and perception of events. They deny things they said or did, twisting your memories.
Projections: Attributing their own negative traits and feelings onto you.
Triangulation: Involving a third party to create conflict and insecurity.
Emotional Blackmail: Using guilt, shame, or threats to manipulate your behavior.
Love Bombing (Initially): Overwhelming you with affection and attention in the beginning to gain your trust, before the devaluation stage.
Disarming the Narcissist: Practical Strategies for Self-Protection
Disarming a narcissist isn't about confronting them directly in a way that fuels their ego. It's about strategically managing interactions and prioritizing your well-being.
#### 1. Setting Boundaries: The Foundation of Self-Protection
Setting clear and consistent boundaries is paramount. This means defining what behaviors you will and will not tolerate. This might involve limiting contact, refusing to engage in arguments, or simply walking away from conversations that become toxic. Be prepared for resistance; they may test your boundaries repeatedly. Consistency is key.
#### 2. Gray Rock Technique: Minimizing Emotional Engagement
The "gray rock" method involves becoming emotionally unresponsive. Imagine being a boring, uninteresting rock. Don't offer emotional fuel by reacting to their provocations. Keep your responses brief, neutral, and unemotional. This reduces their ability to manipulate you through emotional reactions.
#### 3. Assertive Communication: Speaking Your Truth Calmly
Assertive communication involves expressing your needs and feelings clearly and respectfully, without being aggressive or passive. This is crucial for setting boundaries and managing interactions. Focus on "I" statements to avoid accusatory language, which can escalate the situation. For example, instead of saying "You always make me feel bad," try "I feel hurt when..."
#### 4. Documenting Interactions: Building a Record
Keep a record of interactions, including dates, times, and specific instances of manipulative behavior. This documentation can be invaluable if you need to seek support from others or take legal action.
#### 5. Seeking Support: Building a Strong Support Network
Lean on your support network – friends, family, therapists – for emotional support and guidance. Talking about your experiences can help you process your emotions and gain perspective. A therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse can provide invaluable tools and strategies.
#### 6. Prioritizing Self-Care: Nourishing Your Well-being
Self-care is crucial when dealing with a narcissist. Engage in activities that nurture your physical and mental health, such as exercise, meditation, spending time in nature, or pursuing hobbies. Prioritizing your well-being is not selfish; it's essential for your survival.
Moving Forward: Prioritizing Your Mental Health
Disarming a narcissist is a journey, not a destination. It requires consistent effort, self-awareness, and a commitment to prioritizing your own well-being. Remember, you are not responsible for their behavior, only your reaction to it. Seeking professional help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Conclusion:
Dealing with a narcissist is challenging, but by understanding their tactics and implementing these strategies, you can significantly reduce their impact on your life. Remember, the goal is not to change them but to protect yourself and foster your own emotional well-being. Prioritize your mental health, build a strong support system, and remember you deserve to live a life free from manipulation and control.
FAQs:
1. Can I ever truly "win" against a narcissist? The focus shouldn't be on winning, but on protecting your well-being and establishing healthy boundaries. Narcissists are unlikely to change, so focus on your own self-preservation.
2. What if the narcissist is a family member? Maintaining healthy boundaries can be especially challenging with family members. Consider seeking therapy to develop strategies for managing these complex relationships. Prioritize your mental health and well-being.
3. Is it possible to have a healthy relationship with a narcissist? Healthy relationships require mutual respect, empathy, and compromise. Narcissists often lack these qualities, making healthy relationships incredibly difficult.
4. Should I confront a narcissist directly about their behavior? Direct confrontation often backfires, fueling their ego and potentially escalating the situation. The gray rock method and assertive communication are more effective approaches.
5. When should I seek professional help? If you're struggling to cope with the emotional toll of interacting with a narcissist, seeking professional help from a therapist is highly recommended. They can provide support, guidance, and tools to help you navigate this challenging situation.
| disarming the narcissist: Disarming the Narcissist Wendy T. Behary, 2009-11 How can you handle the narcissistic people in your life? They're frustrating (and maybe even intimidating) to deal with. You might need to interact with some of them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one-so sometimes it just doesn't work to simply ignore them. You need to find a way of communicating effectively with narcissists, getting your point across and meeting your needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments. Disarming the Narcissist offers a host of effective strategies for dealing effectively with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe. Disarming the Narcissist will show you how to move past the narcissist's defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You'll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it's sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you'll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you'll find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist. Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior. |
| disarming the narcissist: Disarming the Narcissist Maureen McLain, Wendy Keith, Kristi Brock, Zara Hamilton, Nora Simpson, 2017-05-21 Are you in need of advice and perspectives from people who are now (or have been in the past) in your shoes? Of people who have dealt with the trials and tribulations of being married to a narcissistic spouse? Note: If you are in a physically abusive situation, this book is not really intended for you. We cannot recommend staying in a physically abusive relationship.That said...This book shares the experiences of real people who are now or have previously been in your situation. These people - all women - managed to find ways to be relatively happy in their relationships (or at least have found coping mechanisms until the time was right to leave) and are here to offer you advice on how to disarm your narcissistic spouse. Some are still married as of this publication, while others have moved on.Some of what this book covers:* Selfishness* Manipulation * Jealousy* Communication* Support* Finding yourself* Financial considerations * What if there are children* How to prepare to leave (if applicable)* Much, much more!If you find yourself in need of advice on how to deal with a narcissistic spouse, you will find an abundance of helpful information in this book. Here you will find a diverse group of perspectives. Some of the couples were or have been married for over 20 years, while one author has only been married for a couple of years and she and her husband are under 25 years old. This book shows you how to take the behavior your narcissistic spouse portrays and either change it for the better, handle it with a bit less frustration, or see it in a completely different light. Sometimes all you need is a new perspective on things, and your whole world can change. Luckily, we have multiple perspectives and a lot of advice to offer. All you have to do is start reading, and you will hopefully be one step closer to being (reasonably) happy, despite your narcissistic spouse. One thing is for sure - you WILL find that you are not alone in your experiences. Start reading this book today, and maybe, just maybe you will come away with a different perspective on your marriage - one that will hopefully include finding peace of mind, finding yourself, and finding (at least a reasonable amount) of happiness again! |
| disarming the narcissist: How To Kill A Narcissist J.H. Simon, Narcissism is an overwhelming and confusing topic. But when you reveal its mask, you see that it is basically a lie, told to those who are vulnerable. Narcissistic abuse, by nature, is designed to keep you trapped in shame-based vertigo. It doesn’t just go away because you know it exists. Narcissism creates a set of beliefs, behaviours and paradigms in its target which must be changed from the inside. ‘How To Kill A Narcissist’ is a book with two aims: 1. To reveal the rotten core of the narcissistic personality so you can see it clearly 2. To present you with an inside-out strategy for healing, recovery and freedom Whether you are dealing with narcissistic parents, husbands, wives, friends, bosses or colleagues, the same philosophy will apply. After reading ‘How To Kill A Narcissist’, you will: - Become aware of the damage narcissistic abuse has done to your psyche and how to heal it - See how the narcissist uses shame as a weapon to fool you into feeling inferior - Understand the playing field which narcissists thrive on and how to stop playing their game - Learn how the narcissist uses mind control to break down and rebuild your identity for the purpose of subjugation - Gain tools for disarming a narcissist i.e. starving them of their narcissistic supply - Have taken a closer look beyond the label of narcissistic personality disorder ‘How To Kill A Narcissist’ takes an enlightening look at the dynamic between a narcissist and their target. It takes you on a deep journey and describes: - How we unwittingly qualify as targets of narcissists - The shame/grandiosity continuum and how the narcissist uses it to crush your self-esteem - The law of grandiosity and how it influences our relationships with the self-absorbed - The effect that narcissism has on its target including: toxic shame, a dissociated mind and a weakened ego - The obstacles which keep you trapped in a cycle of narcissistic abuse: the psychological cage, love starvation, low shame tolerance, guilt and conditioning to shamelessness Using an inside-out approach, ‘How To Kill A Narcissist’ presents the seven practices for recovery and healing: 1. Get allies: Boost self-esteem through limbic resonance 2. Give shape to your true self: Uncover disowned parts of the self and restore wholeness 3. Skill up: Empower yourself 4. Flex your muscles: Challenge the psychological cage and come out of hiding 5. Even the scale: Restore balance to your relationships 6. Boundaries: Foster a strong sense of self and firmly protect it 7. Scorched earth: Disengage from those who wish to manipulate you Each practice is designed to instil you with independence, strength, emotional resilience and awareness while allowing you to cultivate balanced, loving relationships and pursue a life of passion. This is the art of killing a narcissist. |
| disarming the narcissist: The Narcissist's Playbook Dana Morningstar, 2019-05-15 Do you have a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath in your life, or think that you might? Do you continually feel anxious around someone in your life, but can’t pinpoint why? Do conversations seem to go off track, leaving you feeling knocked off balance and confused? Does it feel like they are making your life a living hell, but they insist that you are too sensitive, crazy, or to blame? Perhaps you know you are being manipulated or abused, but don’t know how to make it stop. The Narcissist’s Playbook can help. Dana Morningstar is a domestic violence advocate, author, podcaster, YouTuber, speaker, and group leader. She writes from personal as well as professional experience in the field of domestic violence awareness, narcissistic abuse, and advocacy. Some of the topics covered in The Narcissist’s Playbook are: -What manipulation is and isn’t. -How to spot manipulative behaviors early (and why most people struggle with this). -How and why people get caught up with manipulators, and why they have a hard time breaking free. -How to identify the emotional “hook” that is keeping you stuck in manipulation and what you can do about it. - How to effectively disable manipulation as it is happening. - How to identify the common personality traits that are frequently exploited by manipulators. You can take back your life. The Narcissist’s Playbook tells you how. |
| disarming the narcissist: Dealing with a Narcissist Dr Theresa J Covert, 2019-05-08 Still struggling from the effects of a narcissistic or psychopathically abusive relationship? Many people do and sadly there is very little information available to be found online or in the written research, or with counsellors and therapists that can help. Narcissistic Victim Syndrome is not officially recognised, nor is it widely even known. Even when it is accepted, recognised and known not many people seem to know what to DO ABOUT IT to heal it... The fact is being in a relationship with a narcissist over a long period of time has long lasting traumatic effects that can be extremely catastrophic to the person suffering them. DO THE FOLLOWING SYMPTOMS SOUND FAMILIAR? - Ruined self confidence - Doubting yourself and your sanity - Mood swings - Sleeplessness - Extreme weight loss or weight gain - Uncharacteristic jealousy/ insecurity - Feeling like you don't know the difference between right and wrong - Extreme paranoia (being turned into an obsessive detective) - Endless, repetitive obsessive thinking about your ex - Constantly trying to find explanations for what has happened - Feelings of helplessness and despair - A desire to self isolate - Feeling desperately misunderstood - Overwhelming feelings of loss and grief - Extreme bouts of rage - An inability to be comfortable with yourself - Strange dreams - Sudden inexplicable anxiety followed by rapid dips into depression The list goes on.... NOBODY UNDERSTANDS! I hear this frustrated cry from abused people a lot. I felt the same way when I was recovering from emotional abuse at the hands of a narcissistic/borderline psychopath. If you try and tell people who have NO EXPERIENCE with a narcissist (there is no experience like being with a narcissist, its not their fault they can't understand) about it they will either deny your experience, tell you you are exaggerating or look at you like you were crazy. Maybe my ex is right, maybe it really is me.... WHAT YOU NEED NOW: - Someone who has been through the same experiences you have and understands them from the inside. -Someone who has the knowledge, training, education and experience working on himself and others to lead you through the emotional sh*tstorm that breaking with a narcissist can create. I can't promise you that reading to this book is going to be a total cure, but I can promise that if you APPLY YOURSELF DILLIGENTLY, take notes, read and re-read the chapters, follow all instructions to the letter, with a tenacious resolve to get better you will feel an instant decrease in anxiety within the first 24 hours and should see huge improvements within the first 3 days. This is not hype, this is what my audience commonly report Buy the Paperback version and get the Kindle Book versions for FREE What are you waiting for?!Scroll Up, Click on the Buy Now button! |
| disarming the narcissist: Disarming the Narcissist Wendy T Behary, 2022-08-24 Now in its third edition and translated into more than fifteen languages, Disarming the Narcissist is the go-to guide to help readers cope with and confront the narcissist in their lives. Fully revised and updated based on reader feedback, this new edition features new information on shame, hypersexuality, and infidelity in narcissism; legal information for divorcing a narcissist; and the impact of narcissism on children. With this essential how-to, readers will learn how to separate themselves from the narcissist's traps, and gain the respect and validation they deserve. |
| disarming the narcissist: The Narcissist You Know Joseph Burgo, 2016-09-27 Burgo has developed a ... guidebook to help you 'spot narcissists out there in the wild' (Glamour) and then understand and manage the narcissistic personalities in your own life. Relying on detailed profiles, vignettes from the authors practice, and celebrity biographies, [this book] offers ... tools and solutions you can use to defuse hostile situations and survive assaults on your self-esteem should you ever find yourself in an extreme narcissist's orbit--Amazon.com. |
| disarming the narcissist: Unmasking Narcissim Mark Ettensohn Psyd, 2016-02-09 In this groundbreaking guide from clinical psychologist Mark Ettensohn, PsyD., you will gain insight into narcissistic behaviors, symptoms, and relationship dynamics. Dr. Ettensohn provides exercises designed to help you clarify your own values and goals for the relationship, whether that means immediate separation or long-term relationship management. Anyone whose life has been touched by narcissism will find this book helpful - whether you are coming to terms with a loved one's diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD), or working to move forward after leaving a narcissistic relationship.--Amazon. |
| disarming the narcissist: Schema Therapy Eshkol Rafaeli, David P. Bernstein, Jeffrey Young, 2010-09-13 Schema Therapy combines proven cognitive behavioral therapy techniques with elements of interpersonal, experiential, and psychodynamic therapies in order to help people with long-term mental health problems including personality disorders and chronic depression. Schema Therapy suggests that many negative cognitive conditions are based on past experiences, and therefore provides models for challenging and modifying negative thoughts and behaviors in order to provoke change. In this book, Eshkol Rafaeli, David P. Bernstein and Jeffrey Young – pioneers of the Schema Therapy approach – indicate the 30 distinctive features of Schema Therapy, and how the method fits into the broader CBT spectrum. Divided into two parts, Theoretical Points and Practical Points, this book provides a concise introduction for those new to the technique, as well as a discussion of how it differs from the other cognitive behavioral therapies for those experienced in the field. |
| disarming the narcissist: The Narcissist in Your Life Julie L. Hall, 2019-12-03 A highly illuminating examination of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and its insidiously traumatic impact on family members and partners. Packed with insight, compassion, and practical strategies for recovery, this is a must-read for survivors and clinicians alike. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) has a profoundly dehumanizing effect on those subject to its distortions, manipulations, and rage. The Narcissist in Your Life illuminates the emotionally annihilating experience of narcissistic abuse in families and relationships, acknowledges the complex emotional and physical trauma that results, and assists survivors with compassionate, practical advice on the path of recovery. Whether you are just learning about NPD, managing a narcissistic parent or other family member, leaving a narcissistic relationship, or struggling with complex PTSD, you will find life-changing answers to these common questions: What are the different forms of NPD? Is my partner a narcissist? Why do I keep attracting narcissistic personalities? How can I help my kids? What happens in a narcissistic family? Why did my other parent go along with the abuse? Why am I alienated from my siblings? Why is it so hard to believe in myself and my future? What is complex PTSD and do I have it? What are the health problems associated with narcissistic abuse? Journalist, survivor, and NPD trauma coach Julie L. Hall provides a comprehensive, up-to-date, affirming, and accessible guide that will not only help you understand narcissistic abuse trauma, but will help you overcome trauma cycles and move forward with healing. |
| disarming the narcissist: Why Is It Always About You? Sandy Hotchkiss, 2008-06-20 In this groundbreaking book -- the first popular book on narcissism in more than a decade -- clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries -- and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation. Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life. |
| disarming the narcissist: Handling A Narcissist Damian Blair, 2021-04-27 Do you feel held captive by manipulation? Are you looking to recover your sense of self and break free from narcissitic abuse? If so, keeping reading... The truth is, millions of people are dealing with the pain of having been a victim of a narcissist. They may have been lied to, manipulated, cheated on and controlled. When you are constantly dealing with the changing stories, lies, and manipulation that comes with narcissistic abuse, it is easy to worry about your own mental health and fear that you are losing a grip on reality. Even if you are not 100% certain you have been exposed to a narcissist, the pain and confusion you feel is real. Although abuse is horrific and the side effects can be crippling, the good news is that you are not alone. There is hope. Handling a Narcissist was written to help you develop the skills you need to advocate for yourself. Within its pages, you will find the tools to identify narcissistic behavior that will allow you to better understand what you are going through and help you see who the narcissist truly is. You will learn how to communicate clearly without falling victim to their schemes and manipulations. As a retired couple's therapist, I have witnessed the devastating effects of narcissistic behavior in both the perpetrator and the victim, along with the damage to the family unit. I wrote this book to help those who find themselves in a relationship with a potential narcissist-whether they are a spouse, partner, family member or co-worker. The goal of this book is to help stop the cycle of narcissistic abuse. You will learn how to recognize the different stages of abuse and identify exactly what the narcissist is doing. You will gain the knowledge to help you avoid being taken advantage of while learning actionable steps to communicate your own needs and avoid power struggles. Inside, you will discover - The Most Common Signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) - The 4 Types of Narcissists And Their Personality Traits - Proven Techniques To Communicate Your Own Needs While Avoiding A Power Struggle - How To Idenitify the 4 Degrees of Abuse Denial - How To Recognize Every Psychological Game The Narcissist Will Play - The Most Common Disguises Worn By A Narcissist - The Critical Steps To Effectively Walk Away From a Narcissist... For Good - The Secrets to Creating Boundaries - How to Communicate with a Narcissist In A Work Environment - The #1 Mindset Needed to Stand Up to Gaslighting and Manipulation ... And So Much More! Handling A Narcissist is your go-to guide to allow your voice to be heard without falling victim to the devices of a true narcissist. If you are ready to take back control of your life and end the cycle of manipulation, then scroll up and click Add to Cart now. |
| disarming the narcissist: Disarming the Narcissist Wendy T. Behary, 2013-07-01 Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or engage in magical thinking? These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So how do you handle the narcissistic people in your life? You might interact with them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one—so ignoring them isn’t really a practical solution. They're frustrating, and maybe even intimidating, but ultimately, you need to find a way of communicating effectively with them. Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition, will show you how to move past the narcissist's defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You'll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it's sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you'll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you'll also find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist. This book will help you learn to meet your own needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe. This new edition also includes new chapters on dealing with narcissistic women, aggressive and abusive narcissists, strategies for safety, and the link between narcissism and sex addiction. Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior. |
| disarming the narcissist: Stop Manipulating Me! Lisa Howard, 2019-12-19 Stop Manipulating Me! can help you finally free yourself from the manipulation of a narcissist. Learn what makes narcissists tick and how they design their manipulation so that you can get ahead of it and protect yourself. This book offers a complete understanding of narcissism, not just it's symptoms, and advice on how to disarm a narcissist and take back your life after abuse. This book reveals: 4 little known causes of narcissism The science of narcissism, including character studies, on the different types of narcissistic personality disorder When narcissism becomes a real issue by studying a narcissist's weapons, the mind control used, and in what environment narcissists thrive. Six secret tools narcissists use for emotional manipulation and how to identify them. Ten unexplored ways narcissism affects you from your life, emotions, boundaries, mind, and much, much more! Author Lisa Howard is a certified psychotherapist and mental health practitioner who is considered an expert in the fields of narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and more. Howard herself has been closely involved in involved in narcissistic relationships, and these experiences gave her a unique understanding of the recovery of victims of narcissists. Take back your life, stand up to for yourself, and tell your narcissistic abuser STOP MANIPULATING ME today! Scroll to the top of the page and select the Buy now button. |
| disarming the narcissist: The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists Eleanor D. Payson, 2002 One of the most significant but least understood of character disorders in individuals is narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD. In this book, a licensed marital and family therapist provides a much-needed overview of NPD, its wide-ranging effects, and guidelines for dealing with this disorder. |
| disarming the narcissist: The Everything Guide to Narcissistic Personality Disorder Cynthia Lechan Goodman, Barbara Leff, 2011-11-15 Learn the ins and outs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder with this comprehensive, approachable guide. Narcissistic Personality Disorder, often mistaken for a too-big ego or inflated self-esteem, is in actuality a severe psychological condition that ruins marriages, social relationships, work environments, and the sufferer’s own sense of self. Although perceived as self-confident and arrogant, narcissists are really victims of devastatingly low self-esteem and insecurity. The Everything Guide to Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a comprehensive resource for readers who need guidance, including information on: -Identifying the symptoms in themselves and their loved ones -Different types of narcissists -Living with a narcissistic (one-way) relationship -Treatment options and methods -Preventing narcissism in children and young adults -Recovering from a narcissistic relationship with a parent, spouse, or friend Complete with an exclusive section on the epidemic of “net narcissism” due to social media, The Everything Guide to Narcissistic Personality Disorder is the complete guide to a misunderstood disorder that impacts millions everyday. |
| disarming the narcissist: Narcissist Catherine A. Harris, 2019-09-08 Do you want to learn to manage and deal with narcissists in your daily life? Do you want to overcome narcissistic abuse? Are you struggling from the effects of a narcissistic abuse? If you find yourself hurricaned by a narcissist, know that you aren't as alone as you feel. The truth is, millions of people are emotionally abused by narcissists. The abuser can be your partner, friend, or a family member. We often recognize the components of narcissistic abuse without grasping its unifying themes. We may see someone as arrogant, critical, self-absorbed, and distant to us and others without piecing together the behavior patterns of the narcissist. It's not in your power to change anyone else. However, you can change yourself to stop being a victim. An added bonus: While aimed at narcissistic behavior, these principles are based on solid rules that can help you in many other conflicts. Within this book, you will find: Ways to identify a narcissist, the first telltale traits of a narcissist, and the 5 diagnostic criteria for narcissistic personality disorder 7 tips for overcoming fear A description of the empath, what codependency is, and why a codependent relationship with an empath is the narcissist's preferred target 30 distinct pieces of advice for those who have survived narcissistic abuse How to identify and break free from the cycle of narcissistic abuse Mantras and positive affirmations to aid your healing Some of the most popular online support communities for victims of narcissistic abuse Ways to boost emotional intelligence and break the chains that bind you Narcissist: Disarming the Narcissist ! offers reality-tested strategies in easy-to-understand language. Even if you now feel overwhelmed with problems caused by a narcissist, this book will give you the tools you need to get back in control. If you are ready to create the happy, joyful life you deserve, scroll up and click the BUY NOW button today! |
| disarming the narcissist: The Handbook of Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder W. Keith Campbell, Joshua D. Miller, 2011-08-09 The Handbook of Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder is the definitive resource for empirically sound information on narcissism for researchers, students, and clinicians at a time when this personality disorder has become a particularly relevant area of interest. This unique work deepens understanding of how narcissistic behavior influences behavior and impedes progress in the worlds of work, relationships, and politics.!--EndFragment-- |
| disarming the narcissist: Disarming the Narcissist Wendy T Behary, Daniel J Siegel, 2021-10 Now in its third edition and translated into more than fifteen languages, Disarming the Narcissist is the go-to guide to help readers cope with and confront the narcissist in their lives. Fully revised and updated based on reader feedback, this new edition features new information on shame, hypersexuality, and infidelity in narcissism; legal information for divorcing a narcissist; and the impact of narcissism on children. With this essential how-to, readers will learn how to separate themselves from the narcissist's traps, and gain the respect and validation they deserve. |
| disarming the narcissist: How to Handle a Narcissist Theresa Jackson, 2017-05-23 #1 Amazon Bestselling Author on Narcissism and Grief for a Parent #How to Handle a Narcissist is an informed guide founded in emotional intelligence, that will help you understand, handle and deal with extreme narcissists. Most of us show some degree of self-enhancing tendencies, but emotional abuse, emotional blackmail and manipulation do not form part of most people's narcissistic reactions. Taking a spectral approach to narcissism, How to Handle a Narcissist combines the latest research with real-life stories and practical advice. This guide will empower and enable you to stop emotional abuse, providing you with enough objectivity to step away from any emotional roller coaster you may be experiencing, by taking a proactive role. Research findings will show you what works when dealing with narcissists at different points on the narcissistic spectrum, rather than only those who have narcissistic personality disorder. Whether the narcissistic person in your life is your partner, a narcissistic family member, narcissistic boss or friend, this book will help you to understand what you need to do to regain control of your boundaries, and guide the relationship in whichever direction is best for yourself and others. This book does not intend to help you become a negative influence on others, but aims instead to help you take the higher road by understanding and disarming the narcissist. In this way you are able to take back control of your boundaries and empower yourself, without compromising your values. Here Is a Preview of What You'll Learn... Learn how to identify and differentiate between healthy and extreme narcissism, and determine how the narcissist in your life ranks for both Discover how narcissism can be considered a dependence on narcissistic supply, mirroring a dependence on alcohol or other drugs Find out what the narcissist wants from you Discover practical research-based methods to making life easier with the narcissist Read about other people's experiences with narcissists, and what they subsequently learnt Download your copy today! Download your copy of How to Handle a Narcissist to learn real, valuable and helpful tips to influence a narcissist and start seeing things improve in a matter of days. Check Out What Others Are Saying... This book was really easy to read and avoided the blame, shame and label rhetoric that you see when you read about narcissists. I found it really useful to see the narcissist in my life as more of a person and why they were being so difficult. Then I could handle them from a much calmer place. Really helpful - S. GoldbergI bought this to help me decide what to do about my narcissistic mother. I'm going to give the techniques a try and see if we can have something of a relationship, really hoping they work - M. Winston Download your copy today! |
| disarming the narcissist: The One-Way Relationship Workbook Alan Cavaiola, Neil Lavender, 2011-07-13 When you interact with a friend, family member, intimate partner, or coworker who is a narcissist, there's no give and take. The relationship only goes one way-their way-and you constantly have to adjust your own expectations and behavior to meet their standards. That's because people with narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD, are preoccupied with seeking admiration and power and find it difficult to empathize with others' feelings. And, as if maintaining a good relationship with a narcissist weren't hard enough, most narcissists do not realize or believe that they have a disorder at all. That's why The One-Way Relationship Workbook was created to help you effectively improve and ultimately transform your relationship with the self-absorbed, self-centered, or narcissistic individuals in your life. |
| disarming the narcissist: Married to a Narcissist Catenya McHenry, 2018-02 She stayed in an empty, narcissistic relationship five years too long, thinking she was committed to not leaving. She was afraid of feeling like a failure in the marriage, to her children, and to herself if she didn't at least try to fight for its resolution. Eventually, the fight wasn't worth it because he'd blame her anyway... for everything. Author Catenya McHenry is a fighter in every aspect of her life. Surviving a narcissistic relationship, she penned the soul-crushing journey in Married to A Narcissist: Enduring the Struggle and Finding You Again. If you feel abused, alone, overshadowed, beat down and sometimes outside of yourself because of a narcissist partner, this book will help you distance yourself from the abuse, give you hope, and help you love yourself and find yourself again. Available now on Amazon and FindingYouAgain.org. |
| disarming the narcissist: NARCISSISTS 101 - Beginners Guide to Understanding and Dealing with a Narcissist N. Niami, 2020-12 Narcissists 101 is a beginners guide to understanding and dealing with a narcissist. Dealing with a narcissist is anything but easy; it is confusing and daunting. Nothing about them makes any sense and the more you try to figure them out the more confused you become. How could someone who claims to love you hurt you this much and how could you love someone who is hurting you? The author shares insight from personal experience about what lies beneath the narcissist; revealing the basic characteristics of a narcissist and why they do what they do to help you make sense of all this nonsense. The book contains 101 simple yet powerful truths easy to understand and comprehend so that once you know the truth, the truth can set you free. Find out more on www.noorniami.com You can also find her on IG @faithfilledlife_ |
| disarming the narcissist: Narcissistic Abuse Debbie Brain, 2019-08-24 If you regularly feel fear when thinking about your current relationship and you want to improve every aspect of your life, then keep reading. Do you feel regularly devalued or demeaned in your relationship? Have you gone through periods in which you thought your partner loved you more than anyone, only to have that loving person you so greatly appreciated and loved fall away and disappear entirely? Have you found yourself blindsided when suddenly, the person you came to know as loving seemed to melt away, leaving a monster in his place? If this sounds familiar, you may have a narcissistic abuser in your life, and you need help. That is where this book comes in: Narcissistic Abuse: The Survival Guide to Recognize Codependent Relationships, Disarming the Narcissists, and Preventing Emotional and Psychological Abuses; No more Narcissism in Your Life! can teach you how to recognize the narcissist's abusive tendencies and sets the stage to recovery. Narcissists are people who suffer from a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and they oftentimes have abusive personalities. Those with NPD are characterized by three distinct characteristics: They lack or have a severely limited capacity for empathy They desire to be the center of attention at all time, seeking validation through the admiration of others They believe they are special, unique, or better than those around them These three traits come together to create a person that is only interested in serving himself, with no regard for how those around him feel. He does not care how his manipulation impacts other people, so long as he gets the attention and admiration he craves. Narcissists seek to manipulate other people into giving them what they crave more than anything: Narcissistic supply. The need for narcissistic supply for the narcissist is just as compelling as your need to eat, and the narcissist will stop at nothing to get what he needs, including manipulating or coercing those around him into providing it. The narcissist does this by routinely destroying people's self-esteem, making them believe that they must be going crazy through gaslighting, threatening others into submission, triangulating, smear campaigning, and engaging in other manipulative behaviors that seek to benefit the narcissist and the narcissist alone. Within this book, you will find: How to identify a narcissist and which traits make an individual clinically diagnosable with NPD The various ways narcissists present themselves to the world, and the forms narcissism takes The people narcissists are more prone to target Key information about codependency and what it entails Information about the abuse cycle and what implications it has, as well as how to recognize where in the cycle you are at any given moment The several insidious ways the narcissist will abuse victims Misconceptions about abuse victims What narcissistic abuse does to people If you believe you have a narcissist in your life, you are not alone, and you do not need to suffer in silence. You can arm yourself with knowledge and skills to fight back, to protect yourself from the narcissist's abuse and break the narcissist's hold over you. Even if you've never been able to react to it, this book will show you how to do just that! Take the steps to protect yourself from narcissistic abuse today! Scroll on the top and click on the 'Buy Now' but |
| disarming the narcissist: "Don't You Know Who I Am?" Ramani S. Durvasula Ph.D, 2019-10-01 “Don’t You Know Who I Am?” has become the mantra of the famous and infamous, the entitled and the insecure. It’s the tagline of the modern narcissist. Health and wellness campaigns preach avoidance of unhealthy foods, sedentary lifestyles, tobacco, drugs, and alcohol, but rarely preach avoidance of unhealthy, difficult or toxic people. Yet the health benefits of removing toxic people from your life may have far greater benefits to both physical and psychological health. We need to learn to be better gatekeepers for our minds, bodies, and souls. Narcissism, entitlement, and incivility have become the new world order, and we are all in trouble. They are not only normalized but also increasingly incentivized. They are manifestations of pathological insecurity—insecurities that are experienced at both the individual and societal level. The paradox is that we value these patterns. We venerate them through social media, mainstream media, and consumerism, and they are endemic in political, corporate, academic, and media leaders. There are few lives untouched by narcissists. These relationships infect those who are in them with self-doubt, despair, confusion, anxiety, depression, and the chronic feeling of being “not enough,” all of which make it so difficult to step away and set boundaries. The illusion of hope and the fantasy of redemption can result in years of second chances, and despondency when change never comes. It’s time for a wake-up call. It’s time to stem the tide of narcissism, entitlement, and antagonism, and take our lives back. |
| disarming the narcissist: The Narcissist Next Door Jeffrey Kluger, 2014-09-09 A timely and provocative exploration of narcissism, from Donald Trump to Kanye West to Lance Armstrong, that shows us how to recognize and handle the narcissists we encounter every day. Narcissists are everywhere. There are millions of them in the United States alone: politicians, entertainers, businesspeople, your neighbors. Recognizing and understanding them is crucial to your not being overtaken by them, says Jeffrey Kluger in his provocative book about this insidious disorder. The odds are good that you know a narcissist—probably a lot of them. You see them in your office, on TV, maybe even in the mirror. The odds are also good that they are intelligent, confident, and articulate—the center of attention. With intelligence, sight and wit, Kluger explains the startling new research into narcissism and the insights that research is yielding. He explains how narcissism and narcissists affect our lives at work and at home, on the road, and in the halls of government; what to do when we encounter narcissists; and how to neutralize narcissism’s effects before it’s too late. As a writer and editor at Time, Kluger knows how to take science’s cutting-edge research and transform it into perceptive, accessible writing—which he does brilliantly in The Narcissist Next Door. Highly readable and deeply engaging, this book helps us understand narcissism and narcissists more fully. |
| disarming the narcissist: Stop Caretaking the Borderline Or Narcissist Margalis Fjelstad, 2013 People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders are master manipulators; Caretakers fall for them every time. This book helps Caretakers break the cycle and puts them on a new path of personal freedom, discovery, and self-awareness, through the use of real stories and practical suggestions from a seasoned therapist. |
| disarming the narcissist: The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist Debbie Mirza, 2017-12-06 The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse is the most comprehensive and helpful book on the topic of covert narcissism. This type of narcissism is one of the most damaging forms because the abuse is so hidden and so insidious. You can be in a relationship that can last for decades and not realize you are being psychologically and emotionally controlled, manipulated, and abused. These people are well liked, they are often the pillars of the community. Parents, spouses, bosses, and friends who are covert narcissists come across as the nicest people. They can be spiritual leaders, they are moms who bring over casseroles to needy people, they are the bosses that everyone loves and feels so lucky to work for. These relationships are incredibly confusing and damaging. They leave you questioning your own sanity and reality. Even though they are treating you terribly, you wonder if you are the problem, if you are the one to blame. You are filled with constant self-doubt when it comes to these people in your life. When you are around them you feel confused and muddled inside. You have a hard time seeing clearly. These relationships can bring you to a state of deep depression and complete depletion of energy. You may wonder if you will ever see clearly and heal from these destructive and debilitating relationships. This book will give you hope that you can heal and feel alive again, or maybe for the first time. You will learn what the traits of a covert narcissist are as well as how they control and manipulate. Your eyes will open and your experience will be validated. You will also learn ways to heal and actually enjoy life again. Debbie Mirza uses decades of her own experience with covert narcissists as well as her years of practice as a life coach who specializes in helping people recover and heal from these types of relationships. |
| disarming the narcissist: Working with the Self-Absorbed Nina Brown, 2002 Sufferers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder may be bosses, fellow workers, or employees, but whatever their status, they can make working anything from a headache to a nightmare. Brown, a psychologist, now provides a no-nonsense, hands-on approach to coping with such people without losing integrity or self-control. |
| disarming the narcissist: No More Narcissists! Candace V. Love, 2016-06-01 Why do some women date, or even marry, narcissistic men—over and over? In this provocative book, a clinical psychologist and expert in narcissism offers 7 secrets to help women finally break free from their attraction to narcissistic men. Do you keep finding yourself in relationships with narcissistic men? Is your boyfriend or husband solely focused on fulfilling their own needs and unable to see things from your perspective? If you’re tired of dealing with a self-absorbed partner and are ready to be treated with kindness, respect, and sensitivity, this book is for you. In No More Narcissists!, psychologist Candace Love provides a road map for women to finally get the love they deserve. Using skills based in cognitive behavioral and schema therapy, you’ll gain an understanding of why you’re attracted to narcissistic men, how you can avoid being drawn in by a narcissist’s initial charm and magnetism, and how to heal so you can finally move on to healthy relationships. You’ll find out how the basic principles of schema theory—core beliefs about ourselves and our environment that we acquire in childhood and adolescence—can play an important role in why you’re attracted to narcissists and seek them out. Also included are targeted exercises and techniques that will encourage you to examine your past relationships and take meaningful steps to promote self-care and healing. Isn’t it time you broke the cycle of hurt, frustration, and pain that comes with loving a narcissist? This book will show you how to let go of these destructive relationships once and for all, love yourself unconditionally, and find the love you deserve. |
| disarming the narcissist: Surviving Narcissism Lester Churchill, 2018-02-17 Are you in a friendship or relationship with another person which leaves you feeling increasingly dependent and worthless? Do you feel stuck because the person in your life always argues you into submission no matter how hard you try? Is your voice never heard? Are you being exploited? Has this person threatened you with violence or cut you off from all your resources, family, and friends? If you answered yes to any of these questions, chances are very high that you are involved with a Narcissist. Once you understand the problem and the process to overcome it, you can solve this problem- and you can do it. You see, you aren't the problem in your current relationship, be it romantic or platonic. The problem is your Narcissist. Let the author show you how to regain your life. |
| disarming the narcissist: Summary of Wendy T. Behary's Disarming the Narcissist Third Edition Everest Media,, 2022-05-28T22:59:00Z Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 The narcissist both appeals and appalls. He may look like a modern-day Sir Lancelot, replete with the most swaggering charm, but he is also a master of illusion. His arrogance, condescension, and lack of empathy lead to frustrating interpersonal encounters and chronically difficult long-term relationships. #2 The majority of narcissists are male, so I’ll primarily use the male pronoun and male examples throughout this book. However, at the end of this chapter you’ll find material on particularities of female narcissists. #3 If you checked at least ten of the thirteen items on the list, the person in your life most likely meets the criteria for overt maladaptive narcissism, the most common and difficult form. This type of narcissist is in your face and unwieldy. #4 The term narcissism is derived from Greek mythology’s tale of Narcissus, who was doomed to eternally fall in love with his own image in a mountain pool as punishment for refusing to accept an offer of love from Echo, a young mountain nymph. |
| disarming the narcissist: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D., 2015-11-24 Narcissism is a modern epidemic, and it’s spreading rapidly. But how do you know if you are in a relationship with one—and, what can you do about it? We live in a world of romance and rescue, where many believe love will conquer all, and that the more we endure unacceptable behavior, the more likely that we can “fix” our relationships. It doesn’t always work that way—despite what the fairy tales tell us. There are a few hard facts about pathological narcissism that most people don’t know and most psychologists will never tell you. Should I Stay or Should I Go? uses checklists, clinical wisdom, and real stories from real people to prepare you for the real terrain of pathological narcissism. It raises the red flags to watch for and provides a realistic roadmap for difficult situations to help you reclaim yourself, find healing, and live an authentic and empowered life. Whether you stay. Or go. |
| disarming the narcissist: Narcissist Dr Theresa J Covert, 2020-10-19 Still struggling from the effects of a narcissistic or psychopathically abusive relationship? Many people do and sadly there is very little information available to be found online or in the written research, or with counsellors and therapists that can help. Narcissistic Victim Syndrome is not officially recognised, nor is it widely even known. Even when it is accepted, recognised and known not many people seem to know what to DO ABOUT IT to heal it... The fact is being in a relationship with a narcissist over a long period of time has long lasting traumatic effects that can be extremely catastrophic to the person suffering them. DO THE FOLLOWING SYMPTOMS SOUND FAMILIAR? - Ruined self confidence - Doubting yourself and your sanity - Mood swings - Sleeplessness - Extreme weight loss or weight gain - Uncharacteristic jealousy/ insecurity - Feeling like you don't know the difference between right and wrong - Extreme paranoia (being turned into an obsessive detective) - Endless, repetitive obsessive thinking about your ex - Constantly trying to find explanations for what has happened - Feelings of helplessness and despair - A desire to self isolate - Feeling desperately misunderstood - Overwhelming feelings of loss and grief - Extreme bouts of rage - An inability to be comfortable with yourself - Strange dreams - Sudden inexplicable anxiety followed by rapid dips into depression The list goes on.... NOBODY UNDERSTANDS! I hear this frustrated cry from abused people a lot. I felt the same way when I was recovering from emotional abuse at the hands of a narcissistic/borderline psychopath. If you try and tell people who have NO EXPERIENCE with a narcissist (there is no experience like being with a narcissist, its not their fault they can't understand) about it they will either deny your experience, tell you you are exaggerating or look at you like you were crazy. Maybe my ex is right, maybe it really is me.... WHAT YOU NEED NOW: - Someone who has been through the same experiences you have and understands them from the inside. -Someone who has the knowledge, training, education and experience working on himself and others to lead you through the emotional sh*tstorm that breaking with a narcissist can create. I can't promise you that reading to this book is going to be a total cure, but I can promise that if you APPLY YOURSELF DILLIGENTLY, take notes, read and re-read the chapters, follow all instructions to the letter, with a tenacious resolve to get better you will feel an instant decrease in anxiety within the first 24 hours and should see huge improvements within the first 3 days. This is not hype, this is what my audience commonly report |
| disarming the narcissist: Divorcing a Narcissist Tina Swithin, 2012 Tina Swithin was swept off her feet by a modern day Prince Charming and married him one year later. Tina soon discovered that there was something seriously wrong with her fairytale. The marriage was filled with lies, deception, fraud and many tears. Tina was left in an utter state of confusion. This wasn't the man that she married...or was it? Tina first heard the term, Narcissistic Personality Disorder from her therapist in 2008 but quickly dismissed the notion that something could be wrong with her husband. It took several years for Tina to begin researching the disorder and suddenly, the past ten years of her life made complete sense. Tina soon discovered that there is only one thing more difficult than being married to a narcissist and that is divorcing a narcissist. In her book, Tina will explain how a smart, independent woman can fall prey to a narcissistic man. Tina discusses the red flag reflections that she chose to ignore while dating and during the marriage. Tina acted as her own attorney in an extremely high-conflict divorce and she will share the strategies that helped her to navigate through this battle while maintaining her sanity and sense of humor. Tina will help you to feel less alone in your journey and will assure you that there is light at the end of the tunnel no matter how dark things are right now. While Tina endured a tumultuous 6-year custody battle, she prevailed and today, her daughters have peace. |
| disarming the narcissist: Empaths and Narcissists Judy Dyer, 2020-06-30 |
| disarming the narcissist: Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents Randi Kreger, Christine Adamec, Daniel S. Lobel, 2022-02-01 A valuable, practical resource for parents and caregivers of children, from age five through adulthood, who exhibit signs of, or have been diagnosed with, borderline personality disorder (BPD).—Booklist Based on the self-help classic, Stop Walking on Eggshells, this essential guide offers powerful skills and strategies for parenting a child of any age with borderline personality disorder (BPD)—without sacrificing their family or themselves. If you have a child with BPD, you are all-too-aware of the behavioral and emotional issues that are linked to this disorder—including rages, self-harm, sexual acting out, substance abuse, suicidal behaviors, physical and emotional attacks, and more. Traditional parenting strategies that work on other kids just don’t work with a borderline child. But you shouldn’t lose hope. The good news is that there are parenting strategies that do work. With this comprehensive resource, you will learn all about borderline personality disorder, how it shows up in children, adolescents, and your adult children, how to obtain proper treatment, and how to manage your child’s condition at home. You’ll find proven-effective strategies to help you communicate and improve your relationship with your child of any age, and, as a result, improve your own life as a parent and an individual. You’ll also find real stories and advice from parents who have also experienced raising a child with BPD. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to maintain boundaries and validate your child while also meeting your own needs. Whether your child is 5 or 25, this book offers tools to help you and your family thrive. |
| disarming the narcissist: Gaslighting Simon Mackenzie, 2019-09-18 Buy the Paperback version of this book and get the Kindle version for FREE! Gaslighting is an insidious form of manipulation and emotional abuse that is difficult to recognize and even more difficult to release. The effects that can result from a (short or long) relationship with a narcissist can be devastating for the person who suffers them. If one or more of the following symptoms seem familiar, you may be among the gaslighting victims: * being more anxious and less confident than you used to be * feeling like everything you do is wrong * feeling like you're not good enough * feeling misunderstood * extreme weight loss or weight gain * unusual jealousy / insecurity / paranoia * always thinking it's your fault when things go wrong * having a sense that something is wrong, but being unable to identify what it is * making excuses for your partner's behavior * inability to be comfortable with yourself * avoiding giving information to friends or family members to avoid confrontation about your partner * feeling isolated from friends and family * finding it increasingly hard to make decisions * feeling hopeless and taking little or no pleasure in activities you used to enjoy Very often those who undergo gaslighting recognize themselves in the Empaths category, ie hypersensitive people who experience high levels of compassion, consideration, and understanding towards others. In the book you will learn: 1) The motives behind narcissistic abuse and techniques to resist a narcissist's manipulation. 2) why narcissists and empaths seem to be drawn to one another and how you will be able to find (when possible) the right solutions to find the right balance between couples. 3) useful signals to recognize if you are a victim of manipulation, 4) Tactics to Break Free From Psychological And Emotional Abuse 5) And much more! What do you need now? Right now you need someone who has already experienced your same symptoms, the same experience, the same anxieties and fears, but also someone who, like me, has managed to recover and find himself, finding the right strengths and methods to get out from this bad situation. I cannot promise you that by reading this book you will be able to solve all your problems, but I am sure that if you apply yourself with all your strength, if you pay attention to the advice offered and succeed in putting it into practice, then from the first days you can start to feel better. You will see that many of those symptoms that I listed you and about which you found yourself slowly fade away, and you will feel like you used to. It will be a tough and fascinating read, but I am sure that together we will be able to get out! Let's get right to work, scroll to the top of the page and select the Buy Now button! |
| disarming the narcissist: Divorcing and Healing from a Narcissist Dr Theresa J Covert, 2020-11-06 A life changing book for anyone trapped in an unhealthy marriage or relationship. Divorce isn't such a tragedy. A tragedy is staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce. Does any of this sound familiar? - Do you try to calmly talk with them about basic things, only for it to end up in an argument? - Were they once incredibly charming and said all the right things, but now they are mean, apathetic, or passive aggressive? - Have you tried to change yourself or your feelings, because you know they refuse to change, merely because they don't think they have to? - Do you feel incredibly alone, like no one will understand, because to everyone else they are perfect? - Have you been cheated on yet somehow they make it your fault? - Or perhaps you have already broken up, yet you are constantly sucked back in by their begging, promises to change, or even threats? - Have you promised yourself that you will end the relationship, only to find yourself going back to them because you feel guilty, sorry for them, or afraid of being alone or good? You are in a relationship with a narcissist, and if you haven't figured it out already, they will never, ever change. It is difficult to get divorced or break up with a narcissist without someone who has been through the same experiences you have. Otherwise, you may make costly financial mistakes by hiring the wrong attorney or giving away your assets, all because you don't know any better. You can stay in the relationship and be unhappy, or you can choose to break free. But how do you actually break free? It is not easy, I know. Because I have been there. I was you. WHAT YOU NEED NOW: -Someone who has been through the same experiences you have and understands them from the inside. -Someone who has the knowledge, training, education and experience working on himself and others to lead you through the emotional sh*tstorm that breaking with a narcissist can create. I can't promise you that reading to this book is going to be a total cure, but I can promise that if you APPLY YOURSELF DILLIGENTLY, take notes, read and re-read the chapters, follow all instructions to the letter, with a tenacious resolve to get better you will feel an instant decrease in anxiety within the first 24 hours and should see huge improvements within the first 3 days. This is not hype, this is what my audience commonly report What's Holding You Back? -What if they find out I'm taking this book? You can read this book on any mobile device and download the audio version and listen it when you are away from your home. -I'm afraid of really hearing the truth. My book is designed with YOU in mind, and all of the information is delivered to you in a loving, gentle manner. You will never be put down by me, and I will never make you feel bad about all that you have endured. In fact, you will learn strategies on how to overcome your fears as well as have real scripts on how to talk to your narcissist, your lawyer, your family and children. You will not only feel heard, but you will feel confident and supported! - I'm not ready to do anything just yet. I'll sign up when I'm ready to take action. This book doesn't force you to do anything you're not ready to do. You have all the time in the world to complete it, and you do it on your terms and at your speed. Why not get those tools right now? The beauty of this book is that if you choose not to take action for several more months, it's here when you're ready. |
| disarming the narcissist: Parenting Without Power Struggles Susan Stiffelman, 2012-03-13 A guide for busy parents on how to promote harmony in a family shares insights into developmental stages in children while outlining parenting strategies that promote cooperative behaviors without the use of threats or bribes. |
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