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His and Her Needs: Understanding the Unique Dynamics of Couple's Relationships
Navigating the complexities of a relationship requires understanding the nuanced needs of both partners. This isn't about simply ticking boxes on a checklist; it's about delving into the emotional, physical, and intellectual desires that make each individual unique and how those desires interact within the partnership. This blog post explores the multifaceted world of "his and her needs," offering practical insights and strategies for building a stronger, more fulfilling relationship. We'll uncover common differences, address potential misunderstandings, and provide actionable steps to foster mutual understanding and satisfaction.
Understanding the Fundamentals: Defining "His and Her Needs"
The phrase "his and her needs" often evokes stereotypical gender roles, but the reality is far more nuanced. It's not about adhering to outdated expectations but rather recognizing that men and women often have different ways of expressing their needs and communicating their desires. This difference isn't inherent; it's shaped by societal conditioning, personal experiences, and individual personalities. Understanding these varied expressions is crucial for building a strong, equitable partnership.
His Needs: Beyond the Stereotypes
Traditionally, men's needs have been simplified to basic physical and sexual desires. However, a more comprehensive understanding reveals a deeper spectrum. Many men value:
Respect and Admiration: Feeling valued and respected for their contributions, both professionally and domestically, is paramount for many men. This goes beyond simple praise; it's about genuine appreciation for their efforts and perspectives.
Independence and Autonomy: While intimacy is vital, many men also cherish their independence and space. Respecting their need for personal time and pursuits is crucial.
Physical Affection: This isn't solely about sexual intimacy but also includes simple physical touch like hugs, cuddles, and hand-holding, which can foster a sense of closeness and connection.
Shared Activities and Camaraderie: Engaging in shared hobbies and activities creates a sense of unity and shared experiences, strengthening the bond between partners.
Her Needs: More Than Just Emotional Intimacy
Similarly, reducing women's needs to solely emotional intimacy is a vast oversimplification. While emotional connection is undoubtedly vital, women also have a wide range of needs, including:
Emotional Support and Understanding: Feeling heard, understood, and empathized with is critical for many women. This involves active listening and genuine attempts to understand their perspectives, even if they differ from your own.
Security and Stability: This encompasses both emotional and financial security, fostering a sense of safety and reliability within the relationship.
Affection and Appreciation: Women, like men, value feeling loved and appreciated. This includes both grand gestures and small, everyday acts of kindness and affection.
Open Communication and Honesty: Clear and honest communication is essential for building trust and resolving conflicts effectively.
Bridging the Gap: Strategies for Meeting His and Her Needs
Understanding these individual needs is only the first step. The real challenge lies in effectively bridging the gap and ensuring both partners feel valued and fulfilled. Here are some strategies:
Open and Honest Communication: Create a safe space where both partners can openly express their needs and desires without fear of judgment or criticism.
Active Listening: Pay attention to your partner's verbal and nonverbal cues. Truly listen to understand, not just to respond.
Empathy and Compassion: Try to see things from your partner's perspective, even if you don't necessarily agree with their viewpoint.
Shared Decision-Making: Involve each other in important decisions that affect both of your lives.
Quality Time: Dedicate time to connect and engage with each other without distractions. This could involve date nights, shared hobbies, or simply quiet time together.
Celebrate Differences: Embrace the unique aspects of each other's personalities and needs. Differences can enrich a relationship, rather than detract from it.
Conclusion
Meeting "his and her needs" isn't a competition or a checklist. It's an ongoing journey of mutual understanding, growth, and compromise. By recognizing and respecting each other's individual needs, communicating openly and honestly, and actively working to create a balanced and fulfilling partnership, you can build a strong and lasting relationship. Remember, consistent effort and mutual respect are the cornerstones of a healthy and happy partnership.
FAQs
1. What if my partner doesn't seem to understand my needs? Openly and calmly communicate your needs to your partner. If the communication remains unproductive, consider seeking couples counseling to help facilitate a healthy dialogue.
2. Are these needs fixed, or do they change over time? Needs are dynamic and can evolve over time due to life changes, personal growth, and shared experiences. Regular communication is crucial to adapting to these changes.
3. How can we balance individual needs with shared responsibilities? Prioritize open communication and collaborative decision-making to ensure both partners feel their needs are being considered while fulfilling shared responsibilities.
4. What if our needs are fundamentally incompatible? This requires honest self-reflection and possibly couples counseling to determine if the incompatibilities are insurmountable or if compromise and adjustments can be made.
5. How can we avoid falling into stereotypical gender roles when addressing his and her needs? Focus on individual personalities and expressed needs, rather than making assumptions based on gender. Encourage open communication and avoid making generalizations.
| his and her needs: His Needs, Her Needs Willard F. Harley Jr., 2020-03-03 Time after time, His Needs, Her Needs has topped the charts as the bestselling marriage book available. In this classic book, Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the 10 most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to make their marriage sizzle by satisfying those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to conflict and even extramarital affairs. Join those who have seen spectacular changes in their marriages by following Dr. Harley's tried and proven counsel. You will discover that an outstanding marriage can be more than a dream--it can be your reality. |
| his and her needs: His Needs, Her Needs Willard F. Jr. Harley, 2011-02-01 In the classic bestseller His Needs, Her Needs, Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs. This revised and expanded edition has been updated throughout and includes new writing that highlights the special significance of intimate emotional needs in marriage. |
| his and her needs: His Needs, Her Needs for Parents Willard F. Jr. Harley, 2010-05-01 Children add a unique strain on a couple's time and relationship, yet they desperately need parents who love each other. That's why, according to Dr. Willard Harley, one of the most important things parents can do for their kids is keep their marriage healthy. His Needs, Her Needs for Parents, now available in trade paper, helps them do just that. Following the pattern of the bestselling His Needs, Her Needs, this book guides both new and seasoned parents through the whys and hows of sustaining romance in a marriage. It also offers specific, practical steps on spending quality time as a couple, deciding on child-training methods, dividing domestic responsibilities, and even handling kids with ADHD and intrusive in-laws. His Needs, Her Needs for Parents helps couples maintain their love for each other and raise happy and successful children at the same time. |
| his and her needs: His Needs, Her Needs Participant's Guide Willard F. Harley Jr., 2013-01-15 For over twenty-five years, His Needs, Her Needs has been transforming marriages all over the world. Now this life-changing book is the basis for an interactive six-week study designed for use in couples' small groups or retreats, pre-marital counseling sessions, or by individual couples. Willard F. Harley, Jr. and his wife, Joyce, explain the important concept of the Love Bank, and teach them to meet each other's emotional needs for affection, sex, intimate conversation, companionship, family commitment, physical attractiveness, honesty and openness, and admiration. As couples walk through the study together they will remember why they fell in love in the first place, renew their commitment to their marriage, and rediscover their passion. |
| his and her needs: Love Busters Willard F. Harley, 2008-05 This fifteenth anniversary edition helps couples identify and overcome the most common habits that destroy the feeling of love. |
| his and her needs: Surviving an Affair Willard F. Jr. Harley, Jennifer Harley Chalmers, 1998-11 A practical guide to coping with infidelity, explaining how affairs begin, how to end them, and how to restore the marriage afterwards. |
| his and her needs: He Wins, She Wins Willard F. Harley, 2013 Bestselling author and noted marriage expert helps couples have a happier marriage by learning how to make joint decisions and resolve conflicts with enthusiastic agreement. |
| his and her needs: The 5 Love Needs of Men and Women Gary Rosberg, Barbara Rosberg, 2001-04-18 Lists the top love needs of husbands and wives and discusses how to meet those needs from a Christian perspective. |
| his and her needs: His Brain, Her Brain Walt Larimore, Barb Larimore, 2009-07-13 She reads people, and he reads manuals. He doesn't ask for directions, and she doesn't appreciate his advice. She is so mysterious, and he is so practical. He does not seem to listen, and she seems so emotional. The list goes on and on . . . In a world where men and women are constantly told they are not different, His Brain, Her Brain shows couples what they instinctively know--men and women are different, and these divinely designed differences, when understood, make a marriage stronger and happier. Combining the latest brain research along with their experiences in over three decades of marriage and counseling, Dr. Walt and Barb Larimore explain how the unique design of each sex, particularly the unique brain and hormones of each, results in different habits, tendencies, and nuances of thought and action. |
| his and her needs: Divorce Busting Michele Weiner Davis, 1993-02 A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again. |
| his and her needs: What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage Amy Sutherland, 2008-02-12 While observing exotic animal trainers for her acclaimed book Kicked, Bitten, and Scratched, journalist Amy Sutherland had an epiphany: What if she used these training techniques with the human animals in her own life–namely her dear husband, Scott? In this lively and perceptive book, Sutherland tells how she took the trainers’ lessons home. The next time her forgetful husband stomped through the house in search of his mislaid car keys, she asked herself, “What would a dolphin trainer do?” The answer was: nothing. Trainers reward the behavior they want and, just as important, ignore the behavior they don’t. Rather than appease her mate’s rising temper by joining in the search, or fuel his temper by nagging him to keep better track of his things in the first place, Sutherland kept her mouth shut and her eyes on the dishes she was washing. In short order, Scott found his keys and regained his cool. “I felt like I should throw him a mackerel,” she writes. In time, as she put more training principles into action, she noticed that she became more optimistic and less judgmental, and their twelve-year marriage was better than ever. What started as a goofy experiment had such good results that Sutherland began using the training techniques with all the people in her life, including her mother, her friends, her students, even the clerk at the post office. In the end, the biggest lesson she learned is that the only animal you can truly change is yourself. Full of fun facts, fascinating insights, hilarious anecdotes, and practical tips, What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage describes Sutherland’s Alice-in-Wonderland experience of stumbling into a world where cheetahs walk nicely on leashes and elephants paint with watercolors, and of leaving a new, improved Homo sapiens. |
| his and her needs: The New I Do Susan Pease Gadoua, Vicki Larson, 2014-09-23 If half of all cars bought in America each year broke down, there would be a national uproar. But when people suggest that maybe every single marriage doesn't look like the next and isn't meant to last until death, there's nothing but a rash of proposed laws trying to force it to do just that. In The New I Do, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the modern shape of marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively. Offering actual models of less-traditional marriages, including everything from a parenting marriage (intended for the sake of raising and nurturing children) to a comfort or safety marriage (where people marry for financial security or companionship), the book covers unique options for couples interested in forging their own paths. With advice to help listeners decide what works for them, The New I Doacts as a guide to thinking outside the marital box and the framework for a new debate on marriage in the 21st century. |
| his and her needs: Beyond Order Jordan B. Peterson, 2021-03-02 The highly anticipated sequel to the global bestseller 12 Rules for Life. In 12 Rules for Life, acclaimed public thinker and clinical psychologist Jordan B. Peterson offered an antidote to the chaos in our lives: eternal truths applied to modern anxieties. His insights have helped millions of readers and resonated powerfully around the world. Now in his long-awaited sequel, Peterson goes further, showing that part of life's meaning comes from reaching out into the domain beyond what we know, and adapting to an ever-transforming world. While an excess of chaos threatens us with uncertainty, an excess of order leads to a lack of curiosity and creative vitality. Beyond Order therefore calls on us to balance the two fundamental principles of reality--order and chaos--and reveals the profound meaning that can be found on the path that divides them. In times of instability and suffering, Peterson reminds us that there are sources of strength on which we can all draw: insights borrowed from psychology, philosophy, and humanity's greatest myths and stories. Drawing on the hard-won truths of ancient wisdom, as well as deeply personal lessons from his own life and clinical practice, Peterson offers twelve new principles to guide readers towards a more courageous, truthful, and meaningful life. |
| his and her needs: Draw Close Willard F. Jr. Harley, Joyce S. Harley, 2011-10-01 Nothing brings a couple closer quite like sharing a regular devotional time. Now Willard F. Harley, Jr., the bestselling author of His Needs, Her Needs, joins forces with his wife, Joyce, to bring readers devotions to help them increase their intimacy with God and each other. The 36 chapters are each divided into five brief sections and explore Harley's proven marriage principles in connection with God's Word. Each devotion begins with a story and includes a brief meditation, a relevant Scripture passage, and application questions to help make the principles a reality. Perfect for newlyweds as well as those who have been married for decades, this devotional promises to help readers connect with their spouse, build a stronger marriage, and keep God at the center of their commitment to each other. |
| his and her needs: The Crane Wife CJ Hauser, 2022-07-12 A memoir in essays that expands on the viral sensation “The Crane Wife” with a frank and funny look at love, intimacy, and self in the twenty-first century. From friends and lovers to blood family and chosen family, this “elegant masterpiece” (Roxane Gay, New York Times bestselling author of Hunger) asks what more expansive definitions of love might offer us all. A BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR: TIME, THE GUARDIAN, GARDEN & GUN Hauser builds their life's inventory out of deconstructed personal narratives, resulting in a reading experience that's rich like a complicated dessert—not for wolfing down but for savoring in small bites. —The New York Times “Clever, heartfelt, and wrenching.” —Time “Brilliant.” —Oprah Daily Ten days after calling off their wedding, CJ Hauser went on an expedition to Texas to study the whooping crane. After a week wading through the gulf, they realized they'd almost signed up to live someone else's life. What if you released yourself from traditional narratives of happiness? What if you looked for ways to leave room for the unexpected? In Hauser’s case, this meant dissecting pop culture touchstone, from The Philadelphia Story to The X Files, to learn how not to lose yourself in a relationship. They attended a robot convention, contemplated grief at John Belushi’s gravesite, and officiated a wedding. Most importantly, they mapped the difference between the stories we’re asked to hold versus those we choose to carry. Told with the late-night barstool directness of your wisest, most bighearted friend, The Crane Wife is a book for everyone whose path doesn't look the way they thought it would; for everyone learning to find joy in the not-knowing and to build a new sort of life story, a new sort of family, a new sort of home to live in. |
| his and her needs: No One Needs to Know Amanda Grace, 2014-09-08 When Olivia’s twin brother, Liam, starts dating, she tries to drive away his girlfriends in an effort to get her best friend back. But she meets her match in Zoey, Liam’s latest fling. A call-it-like-she-sees-it kind of girl, Zoey sees right through Olivia’s tricks and they fall for each other. |
| his and her needs: The All-or-Nothing Marriage Eli J. Finkel, 2017-09-19 “After years of debate and inquiry, the key to a great marriage remained shrouded in mystery. Until now...”—Carol Dweck, author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success Eli J. Finkel's insightful and ground-breaking investigation of marriage clearly shows that the best marriages today are better than the best marriages of earlier eras. Indeed, they are the best marriages the world has ever known. He presents his findings here for the first time in this lucid, inspiring guide to modern marital bliss. The All-or-Nothing Marriage reverse engineers fulfilling marriages—from the “traditional” to the utterly nontraditional—and shows how any marriage can be better. The primary function of marriage from 1620 to 1850 was food, shelter, and protection from violence; from 1850 to 1965, the purpose revolved around love and companionship. But today, a new kind of marriage has emerged, one oriented toward self-discover, self-esteem, and personal growth. Finkel combines cutting-edge scientific research with practical advice; he considers paths to better communication and responsiveness; he offers guidance on when to recalibrate our expectations; and he even introduces a set of must-try “lovehacks.” This is a book for the newlywed to the empty nester, for those thinking about getting married or remarried, and for anyone looking for illuminating advice that will make a real difference to getting the most out of marriage today. |
| his and her needs: I Cherish You Willard F. Harley, 2002 A beautiful, four-color gift book highlighting principles from His Needs, Her Needs. Appropriate for wedding or anniversary gift-giving. |
| his and her needs: Woman and Her Needs Elizabeth Oakes Prince Smith, 1851 |
| his and her needs: Fall in Love, Stay in Love Willard F. Jr. Harley, 2001-09 Bestselling author and marriage expert offers a practical guide to the tools and habits couples need to enjoy a passionate, life-long love together. |
| his and her needs: The Meaning of Marriage Timothy Keller, Kathy Keller, 2013-11-05 Describes what marriage should be according to the Bible, arguing that marriage is a tool to bring individuals closer to God, and provides meaningful instruction on how to have a successful marriage. |
| his and her needs: Mom's Needs, Dad's Needs Willard F. Harley, Jr., 2005 Passion after kids? It's not impossible! Dr. Harley shows parents how to restore the passion in their marriages, keep their marriages healthy, and keep their children happy--all at the same time! |
| his and her needs: Drive Daniel H. Pink, 2011-04-05 The New York Times bestseller that gives readers a paradigm-shattering new way to think about motivation from the author of When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing Most people believe that the best way to motivate is with rewards like money—the carrot-and-stick approach. That's a mistake, says Daniel H. Pink (author of To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth About Motivating Others). In this provocative and persuasive new book, he asserts that the secret to high performance and satisfaction-at work, at school, and at home—is the deeply human need to direct our own lives, to learn and create new things, and to do better by ourselves and our world. Drawing on four decades of scientific research on human motivation, Pink exposes the mismatch between what science knows and what business does—and how that affects every aspect of life. He examines the three elements of true motivation—autonomy, mastery, and purpose-and offers smart and surprising techniques for putting these into action in a unique book that will change how we think and transform how we live. |
| his and her needs: Worn Out Wife Seeks New Life Carmen Reid, 2021-07-27 ‘Escapist summer reading at its best.' Jill Mansell Tess Simpson needs a break! No one appreciates her at home. No one appreciates her at work. And now her dog has died. She’s had enough! Maybe what she really needs is a break from hopeless husband, Dave, the ungrateful ‘kidults’ and the lacklustre job. River Romero needs a break! She’s had success in the past, but screenwriting is a tough career in a tough town and her next script has got to fly or River’s dream career is over. The swap! Everything about River’s L.A. life sounds exciting to Tess, from the condo with a pool, to the Hollywood glitz. Everything about Tess’s English country life sounds so calming to River, from the wisteria over the front door to the peaceful bedroom. Both women want their lives to change, but real life isn’t like the movies. And what if getting away from it all isn’t all it’s cracked up to be? A laugh out loud emotional read, perfect for fans of Fiona Gibson, Tracy Bloom and Sophie Ranald! |
| his and her needs: Sacred Influence Gary L. Thomas, 2009-05-26 God calls women to influence and move their husbands in positive ways. Applying the concepts from his bestseller, Sacred Marriage, Gary Thomas offers a view through a man’s eyes. Here’s the inside scoop on what men find motivating—with inspiring real-life stories of women who are employing this knowledge to transform their marriages. Sacred Influence doesn’t flinch from difficult marital problems. But by using this faith-focused approach, you’ll see how to help your husband become the man God intends him to be. At the same time, God will shape you to be the woman he designed you to be. God has given godly women a wonderful power to influence and encourage their husbands. What’s the secret? This book will provide challenges, examples, and hope to women who want to love their husbands well and be loved well in return. --Dennis Rainey, President of Family Life |
| his and her needs: A Little Life Hanya Yanagihara, 2016-01-26 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A stunning “portrait of the enduring grace of friendship” (NPR) about the families we are born into, and those that we make for ourselves. A masterful depiction of love in the twenty-first century. NATIONAL BOOK AWARD FINALIST • MAN BOOKER PRIZE FINALIST • WINNER OF THE KIRKUS PRIZE A Little Life follows four college classmates—broke, adrift, and buoyed only by their friendship and ambition—as they move to New York in search of fame and fortune. While their relationships, which are tinged by addiction, success, and pride, deepen over the decades, the men are held together by their devotion to the brilliant, enigmatic Jude, a man scarred by an unspeakable childhood trauma. A hymn to brotherly bonds and a masterful depiction of love in the twenty-first century, Hanya Yanagihara’s stunning novel is about the families we are born into, and those that we make for ourselves. Look for Hanya Yanagihara’s latest bestselling novel, To Paradise. |
| his and her needs: The Five Love Languages Gary Chapman, 2009-12-17 Marriage should be based on love, right? But does it seem as though you and your spouse are speaking two different languages? #1 New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse's primary love language-quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. By learning the five love languages, you and your spouse will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other. Chapters are categorized by love language for easy reference, and each one ends with simple steps to express a specific language to your spouse and guide your marriage in the right direction. A newly designed love languages assessment will help you understand and strengthen your relationship. You can build a lasting, loving marriage together. Gary Chapman hosts a nationally syndicated daily radio program called A Love Language Minute that can be heard on more than 150 radio stations as well as the weekly syndicated program Building Relationships with Gary Chapman, which can both be heard on fivelovelanguages.com. The Five Love Languages is a consistent New York Times bestseller - with over 5 million copies sold and translated into 38 languages. This book is a sales phenomenon, with each year outselling the prior for 16 years running! |
| his and her needs: Men Explain Things to Me Rebecca Solnit, 2014-04-14 The National Book Critics Circle Award–winning author delivers a collection of essays that serve as the perfect “antidote to mansplaining” (The Stranger). In her comic, scathing essay “Men Explain Things to Me,” Rebecca Solnit took on what often goes wrong in conversations between men and women. She wrote about men who wrongly assume they know things and wrongly assume women don’t, about why this arises, and how this aspect of the gender wars works, airing some of her own hilariously awful encounters. She ends on a serious note— because the ultimate problem is the silencing of women who have something to say, including those saying things like, “He’s trying to kill me!” This book features that now-classic essay with six perfect complements, including an examination of the great feminist writer Virginia Woolf’s embrace of mystery, of not knowing, of doubt and ambiguity, a highly original inquiry into marriage equality, and a terrifying survey of the scope of contemporary violence against women. “In this series of personal but unsentimental essays, Solnit gives succinct shorthand to a familiar female experience that before had gone unarticulated, perhaps even unrecognized.” —The New York Times “Essential feminist reading.” —The New Republic “This slim book hums with power and wit.” —Boston Globe “Solnit tackles big themes of gender and power in these accessible essays. Honest and full of wit, this is an integral read that furthers the conversation on feminism and contemporary society.” —San Francisco Chronicle “Essential.” —Marketplace “Feminist, frequently funny, unflinchingly honest and often scathing in its conclusions.” —Salon |
| his and her needs: Marriage Insurance Willard F. Harley, 1988 Clears up misconceptions about marriage, suggests four policies to insure a happy marriage and identify the problems that can lead to divorce. |
| his and her needs: The Inheritance Games Jennifer Lynn Barnes, 2020-09-01 OVER 3 MILLION COPIES SOLD OF THE #1 BESTSELLING SERIES! Don't miss this New York Times bestselling impossible to put down (Buzzfeed) novel with deadly stakes, thrilling twists, and juicy secrets—perfect for fans of One of Us is Lying and Knives Out. Avery Grambs has a plan for a better future: survive high school, win a scholarship, and get out. But her fortunes change in an instant when billionaire Tobias Hawthorne dies and leaves Avery virtually his entire fortune. The catch? Avery has no idea why—or even who Tobias Hawthorne is. To receive her inheritance, Avery must move into sprawling, secret passage-filled Hawthorne House, where every room bears the old man's touch—and his love of puzzles, riddles, and codes. Unfortunately for Avery, Hawthorne House is also occupied by the family that Tobias Hawthorne just dispossessed. This includes the four Hawthorne grandsons: dangerous, magnetic, brilliant boys who grew up with every expectation that one day, they would inherit billions. Heir apparent Grayson Hawthorne is convinced that Avery must be a conwoman, and he's determined to take her down. His brother, Jameson, views her as their grandfather's last hurrah: a twisted riddle, a puzzle to be solved. Caught in a world of wealth and privilege with danger around every turn, Avery will have to play the game herself just to survive. **The games continue in The Hawthorne Legacy, The Final Gambit, and The Brothers Hawthorne! |
| his and her needs: No More Mr Nice Guy Dr Robert A Glover, 2022-11-02 Originally published as an e-book that became a controversial media phenomenon, No More Mr. Nice Guy! landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O'Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. Dr. Robert Glover has dubbed the Nice Guy Syndrome trying too hard to please others while neglecting one's own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It's no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential. |
| his and her needs: Love Busters Willard F. Harley, Jr., 2016-10-04 A Classic Resource from Dr. Harley--Now Revised and Repackaged to Highlight Six Changes in Habits That Will Save Your Marriage According to relationship expert and bestselling author Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., after couples get married, they often develop habits that slowly undermine the love they have for each other. If tolerated, these Love Busters--selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, angry outbursts, dishonesty, annoying habits, and independent behavior--will destroy a couple's love for each other. The solution, however, isn't merely to avoid these negative behaviors and attitudes. Rather, it's to cultivate Love Builders--positive habits that will strengthen the relationship. With Dr. Harley's expert guidance, couples will be able to avoid the major causes of marital unhappiness and disappointment. Instead of tearing their marriage apart, they will learn to build it into the marriage they had needed and wanted. This book is a perfect companion to His Needs, Her Needs and will be useful to pastors, counselors, and couples. |
| his and her needs: The Art of Falling in Love Joe Beam, 2013 Describes the lovepath, the author's process for finding and maintaining true love. |
| his and her needs: His Needs, Her Needs Willard F. Harley, Jr., 2011 This book will educate you in the care of your spouse,' explains Dr Willard Harley. 'Once you have learned its lessons, your spouse will find you irresistible, a condition that's essential to a happy and successful marriage.' This fresh and highly entertaining book identifies the ten most important needs within marriage for husbands and wives. It teaches you how to fulfil each other's needs. Couples who find each other irresistible during the early years of their marriage may become incompatible if they fail to meet these central needs. According to Dr Harley, the needs of men and women are similar, but their priorities are vastly different. Are you able to identify which of the following needs are his and which are hers? In what order would you place them? Admiration, Affection, An attractive spouse,Conversation, Domestic support, Family commitment, Financial support, Honesty and openness, Recreational companionship, Sexual fulfilment |
| his and her needs: The Silent Patient Alex Michaelides, 2019-02-05 **THE INSTANT #1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER** An unforgettable—and Hollywood-bound—new thriller... A mix of Hitchcockian suspense, Agatha Christie plotting, and Greek tragedy. —Entertainment Weekly The Silent Patient is a shocking psychological thriller of a woman’s act of violence against her husband—and of the therapist obsessed with uncovering her motive. Alicia Berenson’s life is seemingly perfect. A famous painter married to an in-demand fashion photographer, she lives in a grand house with big windows overlooking a park in one of London’s most desirable areas. One evening her husband Gabriel returns home late from a fashion shoot, and Alicia shoots him five times in the face, and then never speaks another word. Alicia’s refusal to talk, or give any kind of explanation, turns a domestic tragedy into something far grander, a mystery that captures the public imagination and casts Alicia into notoriety. The price of her art skyrockets, and she, the silent patient, is hidden away from the tabloids and spotlight at the Grove, a secure forensic unit in North London. Theo Faber is a criminal psychotherapist who has waited a long time for the opportunity to work with Alicia. His determination to get her to talk and unravel the mystery of why she shot her husband takes him down a twisting path into his own motivations—a search for the truth that threatens to consume him.... |
| his and her needs: The Great Sex Rescue Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, Joanna Sawatsky, 2021-03-02 What if it's not your fault that sex is bad in your marriage? Based on a groundbreaking in-depth survey of 22,000 Christian women, The Great Sex Rescue unlocks the secrets to what makes some marriages red hot while others fizzle out. Generations of women have grown up with messages about sex that make them feel dirty, used, or invisible, while men have been sold such a cheapened version of sex, they don't know what they're missing. The Great Sex Rescue hopes to turn all of that around, developing a truly biblical view of sex where mutuality, intimacy, and passion reign. The Great Sex Rescue pulls back the curtain on what is happening in Christian bedrooms and exposes the problematic teachings that wreck sex for so many couples--and the good teachings that leave others breathless. In the #metoo and #churchtoo era, not only is this book a long overdue corrective to church culture, it is poised to free thousands of couples from repressive and dissatisfying sex lives so that they can experience the kind of intimacy and wholeness God intended. |
| his and her needs: Her Soul to Take Harley Laroux, 2024-02-20 FEATURING NEW EXCLUSIVE BONUS CONTENT! Like Buffy or The Vampire Diaries but with tons more spice, a titillating fork-tongued demon, and a ritualistic monster cult, the edgy dark romance that set Tiktok on fire is now here as a special edition with bonus content for fans of Scarlett St. Claire, Penelope Douglas, and Katee Robert. The demon didn't just want my body. He wanted my soul. Leon: My reputation among magicians is unblemished. Killer, they call me; killing is what I’m best at. One wrong move and you’re dead. Except her. The one I was supposed to take, the one I should have killed. The cult that once controlled me wants her, but I’m not about to lose my new toy to them. Rae: I’ve always believed in the supernatural. Hunting for ghosts is my passion, but summoning a demon was never part of the plan. Monsters are roaming the woods, and something ancient—something evil—is waking up . . . and calling my name. I don’t know who I can trust, or how deep this darkness goes. All I know is my one shot at survival is the demon stalking me, and he doesn’t just want my body—he wants my soul. |
| his and her needs: One Dark Window Rachel Gillig, 2022-09-27 THE FANTASY BOOKTOK SENSATION! For fans of Uprooted and For the Wolf comes a dark, lushly gothic fantasy about a maiden who must unleash the monster within to save her kingdom—but the monster in her head isn't the only threat lurking. Elspeth needs a monster. The monster might be her. Elspeth Spindle needs more than luck to stay safe in the eerie, mist-locked kingdom she calls home—she needs a monster. She calls him the Nightmare, an ancient, mercurial spirit trapped in her head. He protects her. He keeps her secrets. But nothing comes for free, especially magic. When Elspeth meets a mysterious highwayman on the forest road, her life takes a drastic turn. Thrust into a world of shadow and deception, she joins a dangerous quest to cure the kingdom of the dark magic infecting it. Except the highwayman just so happens to be the King’s own nephew, Captain of the Destriers…and guilty of high treason. He and Elspeth have until Solstice to gather twelve Providence Cards—the keys to the cure. But as the stakes heighten and their undeniable attraction intensifies, Elspeth is forced to face her darkest secret yet: the Nightmare is slowly, darkly, taking over her mind. And she might not be able to stop him. |
| his and her needs: His Needs, Her Needs , 2020-03-03 The anniversary edition of His Needs, Her Needs is a celebration of how the book has helped thousands of couples revitalize their marriages during the last 15 years. In the new Preface of this edition, Harley recalls his early counseling experiences that led to the writing of this book. |
| his and her needs: To Love, Honor, and Vacuum Sheila Wray Gregoire, 2014 Sheila speaks to both the heart and habits of the woman who is wife and mother. The lessons in this book are biblical, doable, and affordable!--Margaret B. Buchanan From advertisements to mommy blogs to Pinterest, scenes of domestic bliss abound, painting a picture of perfection and expectation nearly impossible to live up to. Why can't you work a full-time job, stylishly clothe yourself and your children, plan a party for twelve with handmade decorations, keep your house sparkling clean without chemicals, and bake a gourmet meal in the same day? Everyone else is doing it! For many women, housework has become more than chores that need to be done; it is a symbol of identity. Sheila Wray Gregoire wants to stop that thinking in its tracks and help women back to a life of balance--for their sakes and for their families. She encourages women to shift their focus from housekeeping to relationships and shows them how to foster responsibility and respect in all family members. The second edition retains the helpful, concrete advice on everyday situations such as strategies for tackling chores and budgets and tips on effective communication, while incorporating the wisdom Sheila has gained through her interaction with thousands of readers of her blog and through her speaking ministry over the past ten years. Through the principles in To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, Gregoire promises readers they can grow and thrive in the midst of their hectic lives--even if their circumstances stay the same. |
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